Monthly Archives: November 2016
This time of year always makes me really reflective. I don’t know if it’s the holidays or just the first time we get to catch our breath after the busy start to Fall, but November in particular has become a Pondering Month for me. This November, like this whole year, there’s been a lot to consider. First, we had the twists and turns of the election, which sent me and many others reeling afterwards. Second, I turned 30, which feels like an especially big milestone when coupled with the fact that my wife and I just announced the arrival of our first child in April. And to top it off, the Loving movie just came out, with widespread release this week. These three moments, the election, my personal life changes, and the Loving movie feel very interconnected in my mind, and I hope my thoughts here have relevance to the entire MRN family.
Back in June, MRN celebrated the anniversary of the Loving v. Virginia (1967) court case, which invalidated the laws prohibiting interracial marriage. We held a Twitter chat, of which I’ve shared some screenshots here. You can see these are issues and discussions with a wide range of impacts that we still feel today, even if to our more modern thinking an interracial marriage does not seem uncommon at all.
I’ve included a few screenshots of our Twitter chat. It took place the day after the Orlando Nightclub shootings, another heavy time of year when oppression felt very real and dangerous, something we sometimes forget just living our lives out. You can find the full story here: https://storify.com/ACPA_MRN/mrn-loving-day-chat-mrnlove
The Loving case feels especially relevant to me today as I think that when my parents were children, they wouldn’t have been allowed to marry. I wouldn’t exist today if it wasn’t for this case. My Latino mother could not have married my White father some 30+ years ago and me, a multiracial individual talking about race on a Multiracial blog, couldn’t have been possible. When I put it in terms of my lifetime, or my parents’ lifetimes, that court decision doesn’t seem that long ago.
This last tweet, in particular, caught my eye. As I look to the future, my own child is coming into a world where multiraciality will be even more common, though that doesn’t mean easier. My wife identifies as Korean American and our child will be Korean, Latino and Caucasian. I hope my own pride at my multiraciality, a way of identifying myself that I did not use until introduced to the concept in college, will help him grapple with the question of race much earlier than I did. I also hope to continue to instill the values of three different cultures in a blend of positivity, honoring those who went before us while acknowledging that he is going to look at the world through different eyes then we, his parents, or his grandparents. It’s funny, because I feel “ready” to raise a multiracial child, but not a Korean child. My wife feels ready to raise a Korean child, but does not fully grasp the challenges of multiraciality.
Sounds like we just acknowledged one of the many struggles of parenting we’re about to face together.
One comfort was the baby party we threw, where both sides of our family came together for the first time since our wedding. It was a reminder that we are not alone in raising this child with all the values of all his backgrounds. Multiracial isn’t just our “exotic” complexion, it’s both our families’ way of life now.
All this talk about the past and the future brings me back to the present, at a time when we feel a lot of uncertainty about the new regime in our federal government. And with that uncertainty, there comes fear. Fear that feels much more informed and tangible than in any election I can remember. And as we look around, I think it’s important to remember that we’ve never really had to stop fighting for something. In 1967, it was fighting for something as basic as interracial marriage. Today, it’s not like racism, homophobia, sexism, islamophobia and the litany of others has gone away. If you look at the Loving story, the Supreme Court Case was the last step. The grassroots movements, the culture shifts and earlier court battles were key to getting to the end of the story. And perhaps one day my son will have his own reflection on how the rights of any of the number of his identities were won and fought for during his parents’ lifetime.
As a final note, if you haven’t already, go check out the Loving movie. What an easy way to reimmerse ourselves in the history, the struggle, and reconnect with the individuals that often get lost in the story of the movement. We’ve gotten to work closely with Focus Films already, and we really believe in the cause of the movie and appreciated unpacking the stories behind it. I hope you have that opportunity too.
May we keep doing the work together, learning from the past to make ours and our children’s lives better. Happy belated Thanksgiving and may these winter holidays be a time of reflection, hope, and togetherness for you, our MRN family.
-James Engler, MRN Past Chair with support from Rachel Luna, MRN Past Chair
As a reminder of our ACPA President Donna A. Lee stated in her email on November 14th “In this time where the issues and challenges of our world may feel overwhelming, and disempowering, I encourage you to focus your attention on the light. Take time to breathe and take of each other. Take care of yourself. And know that we will persevere through these challenges when we truly work together.”
MRN would like to share resources collected after this month’s election results. The resources were collated by the Higher Education Case Managers Association.
MRN wants to emphasize the need for us as professionals and for the students we work with to take a moment for self-care at this time. A lot of anticipation and anxiety has been building up for many of us over the past few months and many may be experiencing a range of emotions, both positive and negative, leaving our students and selves feeling drained.
Now that the election season has come to a close it is important to take time to acknowledge our emotions and do what is best to find our own sense of balance. For each person balance looks different–some need to unplug from media, engage in physical activity, eat a balanced meal, or surround themselves with a community of support. However that looks for you, we hope that you do what you need in order to achieve wellness at this time.
As we continue to work with students who may be feeling excitement, exhaustion, confusion, or even trauma following this election season, it is important that we provide the best resources that we can. Below HECMA has linked a few examples that have been posted for coping with election stress, as well as a few tools that may be helpful for some of the students you may see over the next few weeks.
Furthermore, in the statement we’ve referenced by our ACPA President Donna A. Lee you’ll see additional resources.
- CAPS at the University of Michigan: https://caps.umich.edu/content/manage-election-related-stress-information
- University of Northern Colorado Counseling Center: http://www.unco.edu/counseling-center/pdf/Election-Stress.pdf
- The College Fix: http://www.thecollegefix.com/post/29824/
- Ways to Manage Election Stress:
- Anxiety Levels at UVA: http://www.cavalierdaily.com/article/2016/11/nearly-87-percent-uva-students-election-anxiety
- 7 Cups of Tea: A free online and anonymous chat tool to speak with a trained listener.
- Pacifica: A free app for Android, iOS, and the web that helps teach mindfulness and encourages individuals to use CBT and medidation to cope with stress and anxiety.
- Headspace: A free app to teach mindfulness and meditation.
MRN would love to hear from you if you have any suggestions on ways we can come together as a community to advocate for our needs before, during, and after convention. Contact us at email@example.com